tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6533343360915433559.post5402881567364754675..comments2023-06-16T08:36:49.300-04:00Comments on Literacy Farm...: UnapologeticAnne Carterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16516965735015658891noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6533343360915433559.post-61708667857806350732012-12-18T07:39:55.602-05:002012-12-18T07:39:55.602-05:00That's the thing that always surprises me, Lin...That's the thing that always surprises me, Linsey, is that kids still pretend their fingers are guns. We discourage it, I remind them that the reason I hate guns is because guns make people dead, and try to get them to move on to a new game. I *do* agree that the more violent type of play is a way of managing the anxiety and stress of what they experience in real life. A friend told me about a strategy she uses when her kid feels especially anxious or upset - "scary thought/brave thought." When her daughter has a scary thought, she needs to quickly think of a brave thought to counter it. <br />Finally - I cling to the idea that my brother played his fair share of cops & robbers (with his finger-gun) when we were kids, but he is one of the most non-violent, peaceful men I know. <br />Anne (author)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6533343360915433559.post-80831064971476846922012-12-17T11:35:31.121-05:002012-12-17T11:35:31.121-05:00We don't have guns in the house either. Do yo...We don't have guns in the house either. Do you allow your boys to pretend that their fingers are guns? We struggle, mainly with Julian, with his violent play. Everything is a gun or a bomber and I feel pretty helpless to stop it. Curious how you handle that, or if it never comes up. <br /><br />Guns aren't just something on the news here. We hear gunshots enough that the boys know how to tell the difference between gunshot and a firecracker. I wonder if his play is a way to manage some of the background anxiety about that. Who knows. Linseynoreply@blogger.com